Being a "Good Man" isn't enough! By: Todd Covington

I always admire growth and maturity, I pray that this post blesses you as it did for me! - Becca

Being a "Good Man" isn't enough!

Written By: Todd Covington 

A good man is.....

A good man isn't hard to find! There are good men throughout the community. In churches, schools, homes, jail, and right in front of you.

Question is how many men are willing to become unselfish, righteous (not religious), and live their lives as a model?

I know a good man when I see one because I see myself everyday in the mirror. I have a great voice, beautiful ideas and thoughts to resonate with others, but something is missing from the mirror. 

Hidden behind the handsome image, quality conversation and beautiful body language is a man while good, lacks spiritual relationship to heed his own words. 

It's one thing when a man knows the truth, but it's another when he knows and ignores it to become the reality of his lies. 

As men we need to become the model of what other growing boys need to see. They need a blueprint into what they are to be one day. Women need to see what a real man looks like so she can understand what to expect and look for when she seeks a relationship. 

Men lets be very clear. Often we do not realize we are a vision of God that others look to. We have to be able to come forward and admit in our selfishness that we let people down that mean the most to us. 

We cheat people out of choices, voices and lie to the person they have come to know and love. They need to know who we are by our consistent life, not the mistakes we lead. 

I can admit in selfishness I have let friends, family, and my daughters down. They expected me to do what I said I would, and instead I chose to look out for myself. Men I know it can be hard, but if we hold a spiritual relationship we must believe through faith that God is shaping us into the pillars of strength that will hold up our character.

Gentleman. it's okay that we want people to look at us as men, but we have to act as a real man! They have to see the God in us when we are doing what we are supposed to do. We need to stop knowing who we shouldn't be and start asking God who we should be!

The longer we go without spiritual accountability, the longer we will be permitted to operate in a place of fear and insecurity.

No woman wants an insecure man that she cannot feel safe with, respect or trust. We are losing our title as men because we aren't living up to the "good" we show. 

Ladies a good man isn't hard to find! A man who is comfortable with his heart, soul, and who he is, is ready to be a consistent part of your life. Empathy and compassion are what drives his will to want the best for you, first. 

In selfishness some men have blinded what they believe into an alternate life of truth, twisted into lies. 

We often fear being honest. Gentlemen we have to realize we make mistakes, and they are correctable if we speak up! 

Men we can no longer run toward irresponsibility only to fall into a pit of the reality of our ego. If we choose that life we choose a life of failed relationships, blame, insecurity, fear, lost friends, divided family, and not being able to let the people in that God has for our lives. 

I want to see men as a model of what real men should be. It starts with you young man. It continues with the men who can repent and ask God what he needs to do.

It starts with honesty, accountability, and the confidence that God has all we need when we keep a consistent growing relationship with him. 

Let's be real with the people that we care about! We have a choice to live according to fear, or we can live in reverence to what God has promised and reach Him to reach others.

Women want to see the model of a real man! Gentlemen it takes more than being a good man to make others a consistent part of your life. What do you want them to see when they think about you? 

Let us choose righteousness, and not a personal religious battle.

Amen Todd!!! Really proud of you!! - Becca :)

Quote: Faded Memories......

Faded sweet memories revealed in a deep rooted consciousness.....tender moments that tip-toe on your soul. A contagious laughter and unforgettable smile.  A love that needed a helping hand....faded memories never to be forgotten......delayed time would be sweet serenity....new moments to cherish......never letting go.....~Sass~

Quote: Rekindled.......

"A passionless fury forsakes two hearts distressed. Careless acts of selfishness result in divine emotions taken for granted. Even in the midst of a war, butterflies can flutter by so delicately. A peruse of empathy educates two hearts to fight for the love and not each other. As tears cleanse the discomfort it inclines a forgiveness so sincere....A love that laughs through the pain and cries in the wind.........it harbors a bond deep as the ocean. It's a love that covers a multitude of sins.....It's a love not in vain..... ~Sass~ 

Quote: Consciousness.........

"A stimulating force of dominance overrules an emotionless heart.....In the deepest despair is a safe haven through the rain. An echo of adoration demands in a deep-seated consciousness......habitual thoughts progress through my mental agility.......subconsciously......" ~Sass~

Quote: Commitment......

"When love demands it brings on pain, a real love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person; a commitment without a guarantee. It's a love that gives all and expects nothing....." ~Sass~

Love Embraced the Pain Deep Within My Soul..

Love is Patient..Love is unselfish....it's not Boastful, nor is it proud....

This love is not a product of human thoughts or emotions. This love is unique.....it's a divine gift. It's freely described as a selfless kind of love that involves giving without expecting anything in return. 

A Sacrificial love that is not based on a feeling but determined by act of will. A love that loves as God loves. A love that has the power to consume. It's the highest and purest form of love.

The essence of this love is self-sacrifice.....a love that is pure. A love that is peaceful in the midst of storms....it's not in vain....it's never lacking. 

This soul may have been confused about a lot of things in life....but loving this love wasn't one of them.....

This soul was able to experience the devastation felt when life was pictured without this love....

This soul was able to love this love who was incapable of giving and receiving love.....

This souls eyes were windows to your soul......seeing right through you......

This soul was in need of encouragement and refuge....a place to hide and heal......

This souls reflection of love can be a shelter from any storm.....

As this soul grows...it knows that things will get better in time.......

This soul is filled with love......never walking alone....

As this soul embraces the peace that lies within...she is basking in the agape love that has overcome her soul....she is preparing and purifying herself for her king to come.....

To YOU my lost love........I Thank You.....

I humbly bow out....... 

In A Growth Process....

A person can have a positive outlook on life, but going to church does not make them grow. There has to be a need or a desire within a person to want to grow stronger in the Lord, and this occurs when you want to build a stronger relationship with God. Simply put.....this is Maturity. 

Healing is so important......there are wounds from childhood that we carry into adulthood, that allows us to suffer from personal insecurities. 

There are some things in us that we must be honest about. Why are we fighting?........What are we so afraid of losing?........Truth is were not even in control. We've become so selfish that we have allowed our sinful situations to be passed onto others. What we fail to realize.....in the midst of all this, God comforts us in the sin and helps us to see who we really are. 

As messed up as we are, God can use us to help with someone else....

Yes we mess up.........but we learn.... 

From the mistakes...........were able to teach others....

From the pain........we are able to uplift, provide comfort and inspire..........

Yes we hurt...........but in time we heal......

If your not doing what God wants you to do, YOU are blinded. God does not want to beat us to hear His Word.  Ungodliness is a waste.......God wants us to be clean and pure for His Will, so what does God have to do to move YOU? 

We are still learning and maturing in some areas......it's a process, but never be ashamed for mistakes made during growth.~ Sass~

The Harden Heart

T

The Harden Heart 

When you harden your heart, you are unable to receive the spiritual fruit that you are in need of to grow. You have blocked out and shut down anything that even comes close to your heart, that you miss out on the things that are beyond important in life.

 

When our hearts are harden we lose spiritual sensitivity of God, and when He speaks to us we can not focus on what He has to say. We become spiritually blind and deaf, so we can't perceive it.....we can't hear it......we can't see it.....

 

If we respect God.....we must respect people. Relationships and friendships filled with love break up because the hardness of the heart and no relationship will work until that personal relationship with God has been repaired.

The heart that you have will be the same unless the heart changes. The heart that needs to be of flesh.....will be of stone. The heart that needs to be filled with warmth.....will be ice cold.

 

A heart that is not right can not reach others nor God and He can't move in a hard heart. When there is difficulty with an internal heart......the external reflection is dim and dark and it does not glow.

 

A harden heart that is desperately wicked can only be cured ultimately by the grace of God. We must allow God to do the spiritual surgery that is needed, to take out the stone and add some flesh.

If you keep doing the same things that you did last year.....nothing will change for YOU this year.

 

 

A Cleansing For Your Soul......

There comes a point in time in our life, where we just become weak and tired trying to win this war called LIFE.....but we know deep down inside we can't win by ourselves. What is it that we are trying to prove?......and whom are we trying to impress? Are we that prideful and stubborn, that we rather suffer and miss out on the true happiness that God has intended for us?

The hurt and disappointment that we all carry from so many people has caused us to lose TRUST, a word that we don't even know what the meaning is, we even lost all hope in that word even when it pertains to God. We have completely shut down, so scared, we don't even know who to look to. Our mind is telling us one thing and our heart and soul is telling us something completely different.

The answers that we need sometimes are right in front of us.....but FEAR steps in because were so afraid of loosing whats left of the control we have. We were told to be strong, continue to fight, don't lose yourself, don't show emotion.......don't cry. If we stop for a moment, we will soon figure out that this battle we seem to be fighting, is not against the world or the people around us...this battle is within YOU.

We wake up everyday and don't even have the strength to smile, we even lost all the energy that we had left because of the restless sleep we had the night before. Constantly battling with ourselves because we know deep down there is someone or something that is just missing.

Stop allowing your past....the mistakes made and the shame, hold you back from whats truly yours....an opportunity to be FREE. What's in the past is the past. God will make a future out of it. He will waste nothing. Don't worry about others and what they have to say. God says in His Word: "Out of the same measure that you judge others, you will be judged with the same measure of judgment" We weren't created to be a people pleaser, we were created to please God.

I encourage you today....right now.....at this very moment to just LET GO....fall on your knees with tears in your eyes and surrender. God says that " If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature...old things are passed away and behold all things become new".

We needed to go through some things in our past to get an idea of where we are going. We have to look back and remember where we have been and reflect on God's goodness. Who we were then is not who we should be today. When we have been brought out of sin, we must know that we were not brought out by ourselves.

Stop fighting this battle within yourself....if you don't find God....trust and believe.....He will find YOU.

A Healing For Your Soul....

Don't let someone break you. You can hurt, cry and be sad, but you can also keep it moving. You can't fall apart. They didn't put you together, so they shouldn't be able to pull you apart. If you lose yourself to every person you are with and they have the power to pull you apart than you need to be by yourself.

We all fall hard for someone, and when you lose yourself, you allow them to take a piece of you with them. Stop looking for someone to complete you, when you don't feel comfortable in your own skin. You can't make someone happy if your not happy with yourself. Loving yourself is not the beauty you see in the mirror for that is just the surface....look deeper than that....look at your soul....reflect.....than heal.

We all have those open wounds that are in need of closure, that's why we have a hard time trying to heal. You can't get over the hurt until you admit the pain. Pain is never easy...we all go through it..try to focus each day on taking back a piece of YOU.

Unhappiness comes from the poor choices we make.....don't run from suffering...embrace it! God can restore your heart, mind, body and soul. A heart that is broken is never to broken to mend. Take your brokenness to God and He will make you heart like new.

When in a healing process don't go back to the source of where that hurt came from, until you have completely healed.

The Prideful Heart

We need to learn how to move with God when He blesses us. Without humility, your faith will be very superstitious and pride will come up. Pride will prevent you from following Jesus and God will crush those full of pride and arrogance.

We all carry pride. We allow our tempers to get us in trouble and pride is what keeps us there. A prideful heart is a major burden to carry. When your heart is full of pride we block blessings, we choose not to forgive others so we hurt people. We hold onto hate, anger and animosity to those who hurt us, that our hearts have become so cold and full of pride that we even lose out on love.

We need to deal with our heart motives as God deals with us. The reason why there is no room for God in your heart is because it’s too much of YOU in there. If your lost, stuck and having trouble finding your way than bring yourself to God, not the problem or circumstance….bring YOU. Ask God to change your heart.

Stop being so shallow, what good is the beauty that’s on the outside, if the inside reflects rebellion?? Learn to humble yourself before God before He has to humble you. When God wants your attention, He will do what He needs to do to get it and He doesn’t need your permission.

Carrying a prideful heart is fruitless and not healthy for you or those around you and it will not get you anywhere. Give your heart time to heal and let go of that pride. Allow yourself to grow, evaluate your heart motives……because in order to have true riches, the motive of your heart must be to bless others.

Acceptance of Closure Brings Order

Shouts to my girl Ree for this post. She came to me with a open and humbled heart about a situation she was dealing with, As I was listening to her, I was taking mental notes and told her I would dig deep in my soul to write her a blog. As my promise to her, I delivered and she approved. Sending mad love her way! Love you mamas! xoxo ~Becca~


Acceptance of Closure Brings Order


I tend to say, "close one door before you open another...because there is nothing cute about baggage" At times those doors are closed, we just fail to or refuse to accept that they are closed, so afraid of letting go.


We all have suffered from hurt and pain from a loved one, whether it was a family member, friend, spouse or dating relationship. Thoughts come to mind of how someone we loved and trust so much with our whole hearts could betray us in such a way that we become broken. Part of the problems of why we remain broken, is because we don't take the time to heal.


We have become damaged goods, that continue to carry alot of baggage into next situations, relationships and friendships.
But not all baggage is bad baggage and it shouldn't be viewed in a negative way. Sometimes we look at our baggage as if there is no way out.


But for reasons we don't know, our gracious God will put people in our paths to help release some of that baggage. They are placed there to help us grow, to help us become better. The Bible says "Judge Not" so don't be afraid to accept someone’s kindness, because not everyone has foul motives. We tend to push people away because were embarrassed or ashamed of that baggage we carry, but you have to learn to loosen the reigns of that prideful heart or you will continue to be in bondage.


Humble yourselves and open those eyes full of pain and tears. Stop trying to determine what people can and can not handle. Just let go and let it be and trust God in the process. If you stop for a second, you may come to realize that person is right there staring you in the face.


You should never be ashamed of your flaws, someone will love you past your hurt, mistakes and pain because that's unconditional love and at times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person, make sure you embrace that and cherish them.

The Power of Love...

Even though someone chooses not to forgive you, they can't stop you from loving them and praying for them.  The more they try to hurt you and push you away, the more you need to let the power of your love over rule their hurting soul. It's not that they don't want to be forgiving...sometimes they just don't know how. When you carry a lifetime of pain, it can seem like it could take a lifetime to heal.


Never underestimate the power of love, to love and to give love is to gain, and with that gain comes PEACE....comes COMPASSION.....comes POWER.....comes RESPECT. Don't let a person in pain change who you are. In spite of their hurt you love them anyway. They may be broken, but don't allow them to break you. God will heal and mend their brokenness.


A wounded heart takes time to heal....you can't put a band-aid on a wound that requires stitches. When that hurting person looks at you and sees how bitter you are, they see a reflection of themselves. Let the reflection they see, be of peace and love.


Don't stunt their growth, plant that seed of love within them, for we our made for relationships....we can't grow with out each other in our lives. Rich is the person who has a praying friend, let the power of your love for them continuously over flow.


Don't let it consume you, pray for a peace of mind. Forgive them for not forgiving you, than forgive yourself. Forgiveness doesn't make the other person right, It's sets you free.




Humble yourself and love them.....
Humble yourself and pray for them....
Don't let the lack of their love mistreat you...
Don't let their pride defeat you....
And at the end of the day....fall on your knees for them......
With a humbled heart and pray.....